When Life Isn’t Fair

 

July 2013

July 2013

Today I should be writing a blog post about gardening, offering ideas, inspiration and possibly a few laughs along the way (usually at my expense). Today that isn’t going to happen.

Regular readers may recall when we adopted these two fluffy love bugs in July of 2013. While I was in England last October big, blonde Bo was diagnosed with advanced cancer and had to be put to sleep. Yesterday little Mia joined her. We discovered that she too had multiple tumors that were inoperable barely a week ago.

So I no longer need to take two bowls out to the vegetable garden to harvest strawberries or tomatoes.

strawberries

 

I no longer have an excuse to stroll through the meadow and explore the wilder reaches of the garden.

Bo

Bo

I no longer have sticks left all over the grass waiting to wreck unsuspecting mowers

Really, there are plenty of leaves for both of you....

Really, there are plenty of leaves for both of you….

I no longer have my deer and rabbit alerts, gardening companions, truck dogs, welcoming committee.

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Life is different. So I’m not going to try and write  today except to say give your family, friends and pets an extra hug. Because life isn’t always fair.

Mia and I getting to know one another; July 2013

Mia and I getting to know one another; July 2013

 

 

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39 Comments

  1. Christina Salwitz on March 8, 2016 at 10:52 am

    What a sweet post my friend. All you can do is lift your loved ones up in light and happiness because that’s where they are and they want that for you too. And you certainly did that here. When you meet all of them at the rainbow bridge, you will have SUCH the welcoming committee! <3 HUGS!!!



    • Karen Chapman on March 9, 2016 at 11:28 am

      Thanks friend – what a beautiful picture. Hugs xx



  2. Stacy on March 8, 2016 at 11:21 am

    Oh, I’m so sorry, Karen. No one does sweetness, joy, or love better than dogs. I’m sorry you lost yours far too soon.



    • Karen Chapman on March 9, 2016 at 11:27 am

      So very true Stacy. Dogs are such love bugs! Thank you



  3. susan on March 8, 2016 at 11:22 am

    You have had too many losses lately! Hugs. I read this today.
    http://afirstsip.blogspot.com/2016/03/flare.html?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+blogspot%2FWlDqbC+%28First+Sip%29

    When loneliness comes stalking, go into the fields, consider
    the orderliness of the world. Notice
    something you have never noticed before,

    like the tambourine sound of the snow-cricket
    whose pale green body is no longer than your thumb.

    Stare hard at the hummingbird, in the summer rain,
    shaking the water-sparks from its wings.

    Let grief be your sister, she will whether or no.
    Rise up from the stump of sorrow, and be green also,
    like the diligent leaves.

    A lifetime isn’t long enough for the beauty of this world
    and the responsibilities of your life.

    Scatter your flowers over the graves, and walk away.
    Be good-natured and untidy in your exuberance.

    In the glare of your mind, be modest.
    And beholden to what is tactile, and thrilling.

    Live with the beetle, and the wind.

    ~ Mary Oliver



    • Karen Chapman on March 9, 2016 at 11:27 am

      So beautiful Susan, thank you for taking the time to share that. Nature – and my garden – are certainly key for recovery from grief, at least for me.



  4. Julie Cade on March 8, 2016 at 11:29 am

    I am so very sorry for your losses. Thank you for sharing your life with these senior dogs and for sharing all of this with your readers.



    • Karen Chapman on March 9, 2016 at 11:25 am

      Thank you for your thoughtful words Julie



  5. Jane on March 8, 2016 at 11:48 am

    So sorry for your loss…but know that you made their last days good ones.



    • Karen Chapman on March 9, 2016 at 11:24 am

      I appreciate your kind words Jane – thank you



  6. Mel on March 8, 2016 at 11:55 am

    Sorry for you loss.



    • Karen Chapman on March 9, 2016 at 11:23 am

      Thanks Mel



  7. Julie on March 8, 2016 at 11:56 am

    Dear Karen,
    Condolences on the loss of Mia; pet, best friend, and family member. Remember what a good friend she was to you.



    • Karen Chapman on March 9, 2016 at 11:23 am

      Indeed; thanks Julie



  8. Jeanne cronce on March 8, 2016 at 12:08 pm

    Thankyou for such a beautiful way to “organize” our emotions… as I wipe away the tears I know I will be looking at family, friends and animals a whole lot differently! Today is a new day!



    • Karen Chapman on March 9, 2016 at 11:22 am

      Thanks for your kind words Jeanne



  9. Jenny Peterson on March 8, 2016 at 12:15 pm

    I’m so sorry, Karen — life is indeed not fair sometimes. I wish I was there to give you a huge hug, knowing that it wouldn’t make it all right, but just that you have a friend who loves you. And judging by the response here, you have many more than one. <3



    • Karen Chapman on March 9, 2016 at 11:21 am

      Thanks so much Jenny – means the world. xx



  10. Deborah Dean on March 8, 2016 at 1:23 pm

    I’m so sorry Karen. Your dogs were so great. It’s so hard to lose our four legged furry friends. I know there is a big hole in your heart but may the many wonderful memories bring you comfort. My best to you and Andy.



    • Karen Chapman on March 9, 2016 at 11:21 am

      Thanks Deborah. Hope you’re doing well in your new home. Big hugs from us both



  11. Michaele Anderson on March 8, 2016 at 2:41 pm

    Our pets reside in a very special place in our hearts…once they wiggle in, they stay forever even if they are no longer physically with us. Sounds like you gave your two the best life a dog could have in their latter years. My sincerest condolences.



    • Karen Chapman on March 9, 2016 at 11:19 am

      Thank you Michaele – wiggle they did



  12. Linda Jackson on March 8, 2016 at 3:02 pm

    As a fellow animal lover, my heart is heavy for your anguish and loss. Katie shared the story with me and after seeing your beautiful thoughts I knew I must write and tell you how sorry I am that you have lost two beloved pets. Dogs bring us such unconditional love and joyful moments as we laugh at them chasing leaving or as they walk by our sides on paths of adventure. They know when we are sad, happy,or upset and always seem to know just how to bring comfort. My thoughts are with you and your family as you grieve.



    • Karen Chapman on March 9, 2016 at 11:19 am

      Thank you for your thoughtful words Linda. I know from Katie you have also experienced much grief in recent years. I appreciate your encouragement and understanding



  13. Ellen on March 8, 2016 at 3:06 pm

    You have brought tears to my eyes and sorrow to my heart, Karen. If I were there I’d make you a cocktail and we would toast to Mia & Bo.



    • Karen Chapman on March 9, 2016 at 11:17 am

      Thanks Ellen, I know you are a Golden lover also. We’ll share that cocktail one day. Hugs to you



  14. Jude Hassinger on March 8, 2016 at 3:25 pm

    Thank you for your post. “Grief is the last act of love we can give to those we loved. Where there is deep grief there was great love.” Unknown



    • Karen Chapman on March 9, 2016 at 11:16 am

      That is the perfect quote Jude – thank you



  15. Cindy Tyler on March 8, 2016 at 5:13 pm

    That is shattering… Take comfort in the fact that you gave them the BEST (as seen on Facebook 🙂 ) while they were with you in this life.



    • Karen Chapman on March 9, 2016 at 11:15 am

      Thanks Cindy. They were so much fun – and fur!



  16. Peggy on March 8, 2016 at 6:36 pm

    Your post was so eloquent in expressing your loss. Hugs to you during this most difficult time. We never forget them.



    • Karen Chapman on March 9, 2016 at 11:14 am

      That is so true – thank you Peggy



  17. Blue on March 8, 2016 at 11:12 pm

    I had to read your blog post over after the first time because, I have to admit, it hurt to know of what your wrote. More than once, I’ve had to say goodbye to pets that either thru old age or illness, passed from this world.. and left me missing them terribly. The last pup I had owned I had from pup hood to 15. I felt I had lost my heart, soon after my cat passed. There just didn’t seem to be any words left in me. Some time later, I came across Prince, an abused poor wee thing.. I gathered him up. And he came home. I didn’t know I still had love in me. I now have 3 rescue dogs and 2 rescue cats. ■ I tell Prince, My buddy Mike watches over him. Prince just looks me in the eyes and we both know. For me, I believe all the pets I’ve owned will be there when my time comes, I shalln’t have to be lonely for any of them ever again. It eases my heart. I hope love eases yours. Sending you my hugs



    • Karen Chapman on March 9, 2016 at 11:14 am

      Thanks Blue – so lovely to hear your story. Thank you for taking the time to leave a note of encouragement for me



  18. Kathy Juracek on March 9, 2016 at 12:45 am

    Karen , I’m so sorry ! Hugs! Kathy



    • Karen Chapman on March 9, 2016 at 11:12 am

      Thanks Kathy



  19. Annie on March 12, 2016 at 7:18 pm

    Karen, my heart is sending a big hug and only 1 modest suggestion: check out the book “Dog Heaven” by Cynthia Rylant – her work lent my soul a place of solace after my Bear-dog had to make his leave. The illustrations are… perfect. Take good care.



    • Karen Chapman on March 12, 2016 at 9:49 pm

      Thank you Annie; I’ll look that up.



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